Setbacks are freeing. They make you see more critically and analyse.
The start of a New Year brings with it a sense of inspiration, a need for growth and a craving for goals. If your year has started with a new project or a new challenge, it can be a great time to throw yourself into it, conversely, if it has started with a setback of some descript, it can make you feel a little lost and in need of direction.
A mantra I live by is ‘everything happens for a reason’. My close friends are probably sick of me saying it, especially when they are going through something tough, but I truly believe in it. When something goes wrong (or right), there is always a reason, it can take a long time to realise what that was, but it all makes sense eventually.
There have been times in my life when I have needed clarity or direction which cause a period of feeling lost, but they are always, always followed by an Epiphone or an experience where I grow substantially.
Nothing good ever comes from feeling comfortable, and occasionally it takes something negative to happen to make you realise your growth was on pause. I think in order to grow and be successful as an individual you need to live in a state of certain discomfort, you need to be constantly challenged in some way. That doesn’t need to be extreme; it can be as small as giving a presentation on something you are passionate about, giving 100% at work, or starting a big project. If you are in a situation where you don’t feel challenged, you aren’t going to grow. I am not just talking professionally either, there are many ways you can challenge yourself and grow as an individual, from travelling to meditation or surrounding yourself with people who make you the best you, and don’t want to see you settle for average.
Sometimes things don’t work out, you don’t meet your goal or you fail. But failure isn’t a bad thing, failure will make you ask yourself ‘was that right for me anyway?’ We are often told to never give up and to reach our goals, but sometimes we are so focussed on reaching our goals, that we don’t question whether they are actually worthwhile.
I am a very spiritual person, and I believe that if you are in a period of feeling lost, then look for the signs, during these times opportunities for growth are everywhere, they might just take some searching for. In 2016 I achieved everything on my goals list (and then some), but this year my goals are already scrapped because I have realised, they weren’t the right ones. I am now free to choose my inspiration and focus for the next few months, or years, and that is very liberating.